Everything they
actually told you.
The things you are supposed to know about your partner and never quite do. Their sizes when you are stood in a shop. Their mum's birthday, before it has gone. What they cannot eat, before you book.
You each fill in a page about yourself. Then you swap. From that moment you are holding a straight answer instead of a guess, and every line of it is in their own words. Nothing is guessed and nothing is invented.
An example, not real answers
Shoe size
UK 6
Cannot eat
Shellfish, and olives on principle
Their mum's birthday
25 September, in three weeks
Been hinting at
That pottery class
Ring size
Not answered yet
Blanks are shown, not hidden. A page half filled in is the normal state of one, and a blank you can see is more use than a gap you cannot.
Try it before you get it
A round of the guessing game runs in this page, with no app and nothing to sign up to. One of you answers, you hand the phone over, the other guesses. It is the part of the app people actually play.
What it is for
Standing in a shop
Their sizes, and what they would actually wear
Asked once, kept for good
What they have been hinting at
In their words, not your memory of them
What nobody should buy them again
Which is just as useful
Before you book
What they cannot eat
Allergies and hard nos, written down
A cuisine they quietly cannot stand
Nobody has to know but you
Who they would want at the table
And who they would rather not see
Before it has gone
Their mum's birthday, and their dad's
You get the reminder, three weeks out
Their friends' partners
So nobody gets a name wrong
What helps on a day that has gone wrong
Written down on a day that has not
Where it all sits
The whole of it
On your phone. Nowhere else.
There is no account, no sign-in, and no server of ours. Nothing you write is sent anywhere, which is why the app works in aeroplane mode and why the privacy page is short.
The one thing that does travel is the swap itself. It works the way AirDrop does: your phone finds theirs in the same room, you tap their name, and they are asked by name and nothing moves until they say yes. It goes straight from one phone to the other over Wi-Fi or Bluetooth, encrypted, without touching the internet.
Your answers cross. Your journal, your private notes about them, your gift log and which questions you skipped do not. A copy of everything is for you; a swap is for them, and they are not the same thing.
If you stop being a couple, unpairing stops any further updates reaching them. It does not reach back into their phone and delete what they already have, and we would rather say so than promise something we cannot do.
The whole privacy policy, which is the same words the app itself shows you.
What it costs
Two of the eight packs are free and stay free. Everything else opens with one payment, once, for the pair of you. There is no subscription and nothing renews. The app never asks either of you whether the other one has paid.
Both of you need an iPhone. There is no Android version and no website version, and that is worth knowing before you spend anything.
Not out yet
Me Then You is finished and in testing, and it is not on the App Store today. There is nothing here to buy or download yet. If you want to know when it lands, say so in an email and you will be told once, when it does.